"You" Say it often. "You" is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed. "You make me feel so good" instead of "That feels so good." Subtle modification, but big difference in sentiment. "'You' is  sexy  because you're referring to her as opposed to the act of  sex ," says Daylle Deanna Schwartz, a psychotherapist and author of How to Please a Woman in and out of Bed. "It's very personal, and women love that."