"This heart-shaped freckle on your right inner thigh is so beautiful" Compliments are always good. Except when they're generic. Then she thinks you've said the same thing to 47 other women. Focus on unique details--the way her lips curl or her eyes crinkle. The more special you make her feel, the more aroused she gets. She wants to hear words that imply she's attractive, appreciated, loved--or at least liked. Compliments after sex are good, too. (Just beware of "You do good work.") "Women feel disheveled after sex --without makeup, hair all messy," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Stock Market Orgasm . "If a man tells a woman he loves the way she looks after sex , that's a bonus point